Letting Grief Out of the Box
Grief is our body’s physiological reaction to a death loss. We can feel grief in the form of pain or unpleasant throbbing in our hearts. We may experience it as sweaty armpits, a rush of heat and agitation in our chests, a lump in the throat, or a cloud over our vision – to name a few. It can happen at any time or place. It does not matter how long ago your person died, either. Most of us believe that grief never entirely goes away and is a constant unveiling that can change and mold us as people as we go through life.
Our five senses can trigger a waterfall of grief at any time. For example, seeing something that reminds us of our person. Sounds, smells and tastes that remind us of our person. Even a similar touch can remind us of them too.
These triggers often occur at the most inconvenient time. However, when they do, grief is trying to get your attention for a reason. Allow yourself to feel. Although most attempt avoidance, unattended grief leaves us vulnerable in other areas of our life.
“On my way to the July 4th BBQ, I passed where my mother was buried. I felt overwhelmed with sadness on such a celebratory day. So I tried to stuff it back down. But, as a result, that whole day, I was snappy and short. It was only later that I realized I needed to deal with my feelings or they would seep into other areas of my life.”