We do have the ability to overcome grief in that we can move forward with life. It’s not a perfect process. Everyone’s needs are very different, as are the results. What you should know, though, is that you can put together an action plan of sorts that gives you actionable steps you can take to overcome the pain and loss that you feel. Here’s how to make it happen.

Give Yourself an Allowance of Patience

That is, give yourself time to grieve. It’s okay to feel the way you do, it is normal. You can cry, shout, beat your pillow too. Say “no” if you simply feel like you can not do something. During those first few weeks, you need this time process that life has a new normal for you, however that may look.

Accept That You Cannot Change the Outcome

This is very hard to face in nearly every situation. However, accepting that you just cannot control what has happened or is about to happen is important. When you hand over that feeling of being out of control, you surrender to your feelings and work towards healing.

Find Strength in Others

You can also reach out to your support group. If you do not have family and friends to remain by your side through this time, you can reach out to professionals in the mental health industry as well as religious professionals, local groups, and online forums.

Create a Memorial to Share Thoughts

An excellent place to focus your attention is on a memorial. Create an online memorial page where you share and journal your thoughts and feelings about the loss, about the person, and about your life. This can create a sense of support among family and friends and can also give you a place to honor and celebrate your loved ones life.

Make a plan for yourself on how you’ll overcome this loss. What are you going to do differently? What can you do to achieve your goals even as your life has changed so much?