My son Joshua died in 2011. He was 22. We have a lot of photos of him but there are a few that I have been able to use over and over again as a way to process my grief and my changed but continuing relationship with him. As a practiced though amateur photographer I have found that by montaging his image into scenes that represent my current life I have been able to share my feelings in ways that are not particularly word bound. Not only that I have come to see that grief (or at least my grief) is almost by definition a creative enterprise, one in which I have found new ways to fill the void left by his absence – all things that would not or could not have existed unless he had died. Along with my partner, Josh’s mother, we have produced four documentary films, two books and have founded the UK based charity THE GOOD GRIEF PROJECT with the mission of helping other bereaved families realise their own creative potential as they process the pain and isolation that comes with such a profound loss. Photography can be such a powerful healing tool for the bereaved. Unlike other artforms, I believe that lens-based images (both analogue and digital) have a veracity that can represent the story of our loss, but also by making new images that represent our lives now they help to preserve a continued relationship with the deceased. This in turn helps us to contextualise a new sense of ourselves as social beings in a world that is not that comfortable with conversations around death dying and bereavement. Well, that’s what I’ve found having made hundreds of new pictures with my son and hared them with the world. I wonder if you agree? For my of my (our) work please visit https://thegoodgriefproject.co.uk/. Thank you.
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