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Ideas for Coping with Grief

Ideas for Coping with Grief

Where to find your support

One of the critical factors in healing from grief is the support of other people. Having support from your family, friends, or a community of others who have also experienced grief allows you to feel that someone else “gets it.” Being able to share your story or your feelings is vital to the healing process.

Places to find grief support

Screen Shot 2016-04-11 at 6.57.24 PMFaith-based groups: If you are religious, you may find a grief support group in your community or with the leader of your church or temple. They may be able to provide suggestions for rituals or prayer that can help. Because of their role in the community, they may have extensive experience with loss.

Grief support groups: There are many types of grief support groups for both general and specific types of loss. If this feels intimidating, remember that you can attend a grief support group and just listen. You won’t be forced to speak until you’re comfortable, and you may draw comfort from being in a community of others who have some understanding of the depth of your grief. You can find a local grief support group on HealGrief.org.

Therapists or counselors: Sometimes, talking to a professional with experience in grief and counseling can help you work through some of the intense emotions you may be feeling. It’s normal to feel vulnerable during grief, and you might not always want to share your thoughts with the people in your daily life. A compassionate third party who has grief support experience may help you overcome obstacles to your healing. A local professional may also be able to direct you to a grief support group in your local community. You can find more resources here.

Community: You may be a private person not wanting an environment of a grief support group or not have a local network of grief support. Here at HealGrief, you can post your thoughts and feelings in our community healing section, or read the postings of others who have suffered a similar loss. Through this community, you may feel less isolated.

Taking care of yourself

In addition to finding support or a grief support group, when you’re grieving it is both important and difficult to take care of yourself. Your loss may take away your energy, your appetite and your emotional reserves.

Ways to take care of yourself

Screen Shot 2016-04-11 at 6.57.37 PMAllow yourself to grieve: Often we push the grief away, or tamp it down by distracting ourselves with activities or tasks. Trying to avoid grief only leads to prolonging it — the grief has to be allowed to surface. Unresolved grief, often referred to as complicated grief, can lead to depression, anxiety, substance abuse and health problems.

Express your feelings in a tangible way: This can be done in many ways, depending on your creativity or usual means of expression. You can write about your loss in a journal, or send a private note to the person you’ve lost. You can make a scrapbook, photo album or create an online memorial celebrating that person’s life. You can also get involved in an organization or philanthropy that was meaningful to them, or make a donation in their name.

Be physically healthy: Your mind and body are connected, and physical health helps with the emotional healing process. It’s natural to feel lethargic or low energy, but if you’re able to take a walk or a run, it will promote the process. Combat your fatigue with an appropriate amount of sleep, and choose foods that provide you not just with comfort but energy.

Don’t judge yourself, or let others judge you: You are allowed to grieve for as long and as deeply as you need to. No one — including yourself — can tell you when to “move on” or “get over it.” It’s okay to be angry, to cry, not cry, or even laugh — you need to allow for moments of joy in your grief, and feel no guilt for having a moment without pain. We recommend that you read the Mourner’s Bill of Rights, to reassure yourself of your “right” to grieve.

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